How To Create Connections for Lasting Relationships

Here at Los Angeles Date Dinners we believe in flirting, in dating, in chemistry. 

But, we here at Los Angeles Date Dinners also believe in creating connections for lasting relationships!

With apps and social media culture so many people are glued to their phones and interested in the next best thing – so the question is how can we create connections for real lasting relationships?

Here are some tips that we have compiled so that you can start to practice on your dinner date and create a solid foundation for a lasting relationship:

• Listen

So amazingly the first thing you should do on any date for a good date and to build a solid foundation is to drum roll….listen!  Ask questions, listen to the answer, be open. 

Listening creates a relationship by transforming communication into emotional safety, empathy, and understanding. When you hear someone, you validate who they are and their experiences.  This in turn builds a foundation of trust and intimacy that allows both of you to feel valued and supported.

• Be Vulnerable and Share Your Authentic Self

Being vulnerable transforms a surface-level connection into a deep and profound one. When you express genuine feelings, you allow your partner to see and love the authentic you, rather than a superficial version of yourself. 

Vulnerability is a true gateway for connection.  If vulnerability feels uncomfortable for you – start small and gage how comfortable you feel with expressing yourself when you start feeling a level of trust in the relationship.

• Build Momentum and Consistency

So often in modern dating the momentum and consistency falters and begins to stumble.  Showing up with momentum and consistency builds trust and starts to create a true foundation for a relationship.  When the hot-cold method begins to be implemented to create stagnation in the relationship this can actually be taken as a lack of trust from the other party and distance can begin.

It sounds easy but:  make sure your actions match your words, don’t change and cancel plans – don’t go MIA.  If your communication is sporadic and inconsistent you might create a rift in the relationship that cannot be rebuilt at a later time.

• Be Grateful  

Your relationship is not going to fill every box of your personality.  No person is going to match you on every level at all times.  Be grateful for what your relationship and partner does have – maybe they are extremely supportive, maybe they are extremely fun and intelligent. 

Make sure that you are showing up for your partner by being grateful for who they are and what they bring to your life.  It will make your relationship lighter and longer in the long run!

• Support Growth and Interests

Each relationship needs breathing room and our own individual growth and interests.  When you show up to support your partners divergent interests and their inevitable growth it creates a true life partner.  When you show up for the ups and downs and the crazy ideas whether it be that you want to start a plant shop, start going to law school or start a new meetup group and your partner supports you it creates respect and a deeper love.

Dating is fun and can be wonderful but finding a true and lasting relationship filled with love and longevity is definitely what we all strive for in the end.  It’s important to practice the foundational qualities that build a solid partnership so that true love can grow and thrive!